The days may be gone where a shotgun wedding is considered shocking (does anyone even use that term anymore?) but getting married while pregnant still poses it’s own unique set of challenges. At the time of this writing, I am 7 months pregnant (if you’ve inquired about a May wedding with me, now you know why I had to turn you down!) , which got me thinking about what obstacles a pregnant bride has to overcome.
Which trimester you are in, or will be in at the time of your wedding, largely dictates what obstacles you will face. If you can swing it, getting married in your second trimester is ideal since that is when you have the most energy and you are past the fatigue and sickness of first trimester and are not yet as big as you will be in third trimester. However, that doesn’t mean you don’t still have planning to do during the other stages of your pregnancy. And these days, you are probably also holding down a full-time job and getting your head around what it will be like to be not only a new bride, but a new mom. Can anyone say “overwhelming?” Here are a few tips to help you make it through:
- The Dress
Probably one of the most obvious challenges a prego bride faces is buying a dress that will fit her on the big day. While maternity bridal gowns do exist, there are not as many options to choose from. Be sure to let your consultant at the bridal shop know how far along you will be on the day-of so she can advise you on what size to buy.
Consider holding a daytime wedding. Chances are you’ll be up early anyways with nerves so why not take advantage of that energy by planning your ceremony around 11:00 am and your reception around 1:00 pm? Additionally, be sure to plan extra time around the events to sit and rest. You’ll need it to keep your energy up!
It’s common for brides to skip meals on their big day – either due to nerves or just because the day moves so fast it’s hard to sit down for more than a bite here and there. But if you are prego, skipping meals is a no-no. Be sure to have snacks available for grazing throughout the day and water handy at all times. Staying hydrated is just as important!
- The Menu
This is your day and the details, including the menu, should reflect you and your groom. If you are pregnant, you know there are several foods you have to avoid, so feel free to leave them off your menu. After all, you want to be able to eat the food at your own wedding! If you are in your second or third trimester, and your guests know you are pregnant, they will understand. If you are in your first trimester and haven’t announced it yet, don’t worry that this will give away your secret- as long as your guests are having a good time, they won’t notice that the Greek Salad didn’t have any feta or that you went with a simple chicken dish over fancy seafood.
Probably one of the most important, but least obvious tips, is to hire a good event planner. You may not need a full-service planner, but every bride needs a Day-Of Coordinator and the right planner can help you with all of the above. Let them take care of the nitty-gritty details so you don’t have to stress about them!